Ukufundisa ikati Lithetha ukohlwaya amaxesha ngamaxesha, kodwa igama elithi "ukohlwaya" kwabanye abantu linamagama anjengokuthi "ukuba ndlongondlongo" okanye "ukuphathwa gadalala kwesilwanyana" okunxulumene nako. Kodwa namhlanje, kweli nqaku, siza kuthetha malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukohlwaya ikati kakuhle, indlela ekufuneka yenziwe ngayo, kwaye ke, siza kuthetha ngendlela ekungafuneki yenziwe ngayo.
Ye imfundo echanekileyo Kuya kuxhomekeka ekubeni ikati yakho inobuhlobo kwaye inobuhlobo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukohlwaya ikati, musa ukuyeka ukufunda .
Kuthetha ukuthini ukohlwaya?
Ngaphambi kokungena kulo mbandela, kubalulekile ukucacisa intsingiselo yolu luvo, kuba kuya kuba lula kakhulu ukuqonda into endiza kukuxelela yona kweli nqaku. NgokweRoyal Spanish Academy, Isohlwayo sineentsingiselo ezilithoba, kodwa Kwimeko esichaphazelayo siza kuhlala noku kulandelayo:
Lumkisa, thintela, fundisa.
Kuyinyani ukuba kumaxesha akutshanje ayisetyenziswanga ngale ndlela, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba ayisathethi into enokuba yinto entle "njengokufundisa" Yintoni egqithisile, Kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo ukuba, kuxhomekeke kwiindlela, kukho iindlela ezimbini eziphambili zesohlwayo:
- Ukohlwaya ngobundlobongela: njengaleyo inikwa umxhaphazi sisilwanyana okanye ngumntu.
- Isohlwayo esifanelekileyo: esifana nesi sinikwa ngumntu okanye sisilwanyana esihlonipha abanye abantu okanye izilwanyana.
Ngokucacileyo, xa kuziwa ekufundiseni ikati okanye ukumazisa ukuba wenze into embi; Kufuneka uhlale usebenzisa isohlwayo esifanelekileyo.
Ngaba yinyani ukuba iikati aziqondi isohlwayo?
Ewe, ukohlwaya ngokubetha, ukukhwaza, njalo njalo, abayiqondi. Kodwa ke akukho mntu uyiqondayo. Ngale nto, ekuphela kwento enokuthi ifezekiswe kukuba boyika ukuba ngubani omele ukukhathazeka ngabo. Kwaye oku kubi kakhulu.
Amakati nganye anempawu ezichaziweyo: ezinye zinothando ngakumbi kunabanye, zinobundlobongela ngakumbi, zizimele ngakumbi, njalo njalo, kwaye zonke zinelungelo elifanayo lokuphila ubomi obonwabileyo kunye nokonwaba. Ukuba asizimisele ukuqonda ulwimi lwabo lomzimba okanye senze konke esinako ukubenza bonwabe apho bakhoyo kunye nenkampani yabantu abanayo, masingabi nayo ke ikati.
Uyifundisa njani ikati?
Amantshontsho eekati
Siza kuqala ngokuthetha ngamantshontsho ekati, kuba ngokomgaqo ngabo abenza eyona nto iphosakeleyo kunye nabo bafuna imfundo engaphezulu. Iinjana ziyadlala, ziyasebenza, oku kuthetha ukuba ziya kuthanda ukunyuka amakhethini, zilole iinzipho zazo kwifenitshala, njl. Ukwenza oku, siya kuba netyala kuwe nikezela ngesikrweqe okanye ezininzi zihanjiswe kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zekhaya, kwaye ubafundise (umzekelo, ukubamba kancinci inqina, ukususa iinzipho nokuyidlulisa kwisikrelemnqa). Zininzi iintlobo kwiimarike, kubandakanya kukho ukukrwela iingubo, ezilungele ezo kati ziqhelekileyo ukuba zingene esofeni ziyikrwempe. Ezi ngubo zinokubekwa ngaphezulu kwefanitshala, ziyikhusele kwizikhonkwane ezibukhali zomhlobo wethu.
Kwakhona Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sichithe ixesha kwaye sidlale naye. Ngamanye amaxesha, ngakumbi ukuba sithetha ngeekati ezingalawulekiyo, kunokuba kunjalo ukuba bazilola iinzipho zabo kwiindawo esingafuni ukuba siqwalaselwe kuzo. Akufanelanga sibujongele phantsi ubukrelekrele beekatiEwe, bayayazi kakuhle indlela yokufumana ingqalelo yethu.
Iikati zabantu abadala
Kwimeko apho iyikati endala, amanyathelo aza kuthathwa ayakufana; Oko kukuthi, ukusika, kunye nokuchitha ixesha kunye naye. Kukho iikati ezisebenzayo ezifuna ukuzilolonga, kwaye zingabinakho ukuphuma ngaphandle, into eziyenzayo kukutshabalalisa ifanitshala. Abayenzi ngeenjongo ezimbikodwa ngenxa yokuba bayadika. Kule meko akuyi kubakho khetho ngaphandle koku mthengele umtya okhethekileyo kunye neeleash iikati, kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe ukumfundisa ukuhamba ezantsi kwesitalato.
Ngexesha lokuhamba kufanelekile ukuzisa amabhaso ukuze umhlobo wethu azive ekhuselekile. Ukuba ayinakususwa ngesizathu esithile (mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba uhlala esixekweni okanye kwidolophu exakekileyo), akusayi kubakho khetho ngaphandle kokuyiqhelanisa nendlu yomfazi, oko kukuthi, ngokubeka iirampu phantsi kweendonga, i-scrapers kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zekhaya, njl. Uya kuyivuyela.
Uyifundisa njani ikati
Iminyaka emininzi, mhlawumbi mininzi kakhulu, kuye kwenziwa iinzame zokufundisa ikati ngeendlela ezathi, kunokuba ziyincede, zayenza ikati eyoyikekayo. Umzekelo, izinto esingafanele ukuzenza zezi:
- Yifefe ngamanzi
- Dlulisa impumlo kwiimfuno zakhe ukuba uzenze endaweni engeyiyo
- Ukubetha ngephephandaba, isandla sakho, okanye enye into
Ezona ekufuneka sizenzile zezi:
- Qonda isilwanyana, kwaye ujonge imvelaphi yengxaki (ukuba icacile)
- Mnike uthando oluninzi (kodwa ngaphandle kokumthoba ubunzima)
- Ukuba yenza into engalunganga, yithumele kwakhona. Umzekelo, ukuba unomdla wokuluma kuthi, siya kumnika into yokudlala ukuba ayihlafune.
Ukuba ingxaki iqhubeka ngaphezulu konyaka omnye, iya kucetyiswa dibana nengcali yeendlela zokuziphatha feline.
Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa ikati ikufutha?
Impendulo ilula njengoko inzima: fumanisa ukuba bekutheni ukuze akufuthanisele. Isenokuba kungenxa yokuba uye ngqo kuye kwaye loo nto imenze wangakhululeki, okanye ngenxa yokuba eziva ngathi ushiyekile ekhoneni okanye woyisiwe.
Kwaye kunjalo, kuba uboya bulungile, ayimfuneko kuphela ukunika amanzi kunye nokutya, kodwa kananjalo Kuya kufuneka umhloniphe, umnike indawo yakhe, ungamcaphukisi.
Ungayithethisa njani ikati xa iluma?
Oku akunakwenziwa ngekati.
Akukho nto ingako inokwenziwa. Ukuba uluma isandla sakho, umzekelo, kuya kufuneka usigcine kude kube kukhutshwa, into aza kuyenza kwangoko. Ikati sisilwanyana esizingelayo, kodwa ukuba siyabona ukuba isandla asihambi, ayisayi kuba nomdla. Nangona kunjalo, ewe, kuya kufuneka uyifumane kancinci kancinci.
Ukuze ingakulumi kwakhona, kuya kufuneka wenze oku kulandelayo:
- Dlala naye, malunga kathathu ngemini imizuzu engama-20 ngalo lonke ixesha. Sebenzisa iithoyi zekati, kwaye musa ukuba krwada.
- Qiniseka ukuba uhlala unento yokudlala ejikeleze, njengesilwanyana esifakiweyo. Qho xa ubona ukuba uza kukuluma, mnike isilwanyana esifakiwe.
- Linda. Kuya kuthatha ixesha ukuba afunde ukuba akulunganga ukuluma abantu. Kodwa ukuhlala uhleli kwaye unembeko, awuzukubona ukuba iyakuluma kancinci, kwaye kuyakufika ixesha apho iya kuyeka ukuyenza.
KwaNoti Gatos sichasene nokuphathwa gadalala kwezilwanyana. Ukugqiba esi sithuba, sikushiya nebinzana elivela kwi-pacifist Mahatma Gandhi:
Ubukhulu besizwe bulinganiswa ngendlela eziphatha ngayo izilwanyana.