Sonke siye samkela okanye safumana ikati njengekati siye salunywa ngendlela engaqhelekanga. Oku kuqhelekile ngokupheleleyo, njengoko amantshontsho ekati esebenzisa amazinyo awo ukuhlola indawo akuyo kwaye adlale. Nangona kunjalo, Kubalulekile ukubafundisa ukuba bangalumi ukusuka emncinci ukukhusela iingxaki zokuziphatha kwixesha elizayo.
Ukuba ikati ayifundi ukuba ukuluma akufanelekanga, inokuhlakulela ukuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo okanye ukudlala ngokugqithiseleyo njengomntu omdala, oku kunokubangela ukulimala ngokungalindelekanga. Ngethamsanqa, kunye umonde kunye nezicwangciso ezifanelekileyo, sinokufundisa i-feline yethu ukusebenzisana ngokukhuselekileyo.
Kutheni iikati ziluma?
Ngaphambi kokuba usebenze ukulungisa le ndlela yokuziphatha, kubalulekile ukuqonda izizathu zokuba kutheni ikati iluma. Kukho izizathu ezahlukeneyo ezinokubangela ukuba ikati, nokuba yikati okanye umntu omdala, ukwenza oku:
- Dlala kunye nokuphonononga: Amantshontsho ekati ahlola iindawo eziwangqongileyo ngemilomo nangeenzipho. Kule nkqubo, banokuluma bengaqondanga bengakhange bajonge ukwenzakalisa.
- Ukunqongophala kobudlelwane: Ukuba ikati ayizange ichithe ixesha elaneleyo nonina kunye nabantakwabo, ayiyi kufunda imida yokudlala efanelekileyo.
- Uloyiko okanye uxinzelelo: Ikati eziva isengozini inokusabela ngokuziluma xa izikhusela.
- Ukuvuselela ngokugqithisileyo: Xa iikati zifuywa kakhulu okanye zidlala ngamandla, zinokuphendula ngokuluma.
- Iingxaki zempilo: Ezinye izigulo okanye iintlungu zinokubangela ukuba ikati yenze ndlongondlongo.
Indlela yokuthintela ikati yakho ekulumeni
Ukususela ngomhla wokuqala ikati yakho ifika ekhaya, kubalulekile ukubeka imida kwindlela yokuziphatha ngaphandle kokubhenela kwisohlwayo. Nanga amanye amacebiso asebenzayo okufundisa inja yakho ukuba ingalumi.
1. Soloko usebenzisa into yokudlala xa udlala
Kubalulekile kuphephe ukusebenzisa izandla okanye iinyawo zakho ukudlala ngqo nekati, njengoko oku kuqinisa ingcamango yokuba ingabaluma. Khetha iithoyi ezikhuselekileyo ezinje ngeentsiba zenkunkuma, iibhola ezisebenzisanayo, okanye iintonga ezineentambo.
2. Ukuqiniswa okulungileyo
Xa udlala nekati yakho kwaye ikuphepha ukuluma, yivuze ngayo imivuzo, ukuphulula okanye amazwi anobubele. Oku kuya komeleza ukuziphatha kakuhle kuze kumkhuthaze ukuba aqhubeke. Ukongeza, unokufumana ngakumbi malunga uqeqesha njani ikati ngokusebenzisa obu buchule.
3. Ungakuhoyi ukulunywa
Ukuba ikati iyaluma, yeka ukudlala ngokukhawuleza kwaye uhambe kuyo imizuzu embalwa. Le ndlela imfundisa ukuba ukuluma kunemiphumo emibi, njengoko umdlalo uyeka.
4. Yenza isandi seentlungu
Ukuba ikati iyakuluma, yenza isandi esiphakamileyo njenge "ouch!" Unina kunye nabantakwabo basebenzisa le ndlela ukubafundisa imida xa bebancinci, ngoko inokusebenza.
5. Qinisekisa indawo efanelekileyo
Iikati zinokuluma ngakumbi xa zinjalo uxinezelekile okanye ukruqukile. Qiniseka ukuba ubonelela ngemeko-bume evuselelayo ngezinto zokudlala, izithuba zokukrwela, kunye neendawo zokuphumla ezolileyo. Unokufunda ngakumbi malunga Indlela yokuxelela ukuba ikati yakho idikiwe kwaye ngaloo ndlela unikeze uvuselelo oludingayo.
Indlela yokwenza ukuba ikati iyaluma
Ukuba ikati yakho sele iphuhlise umkhwa wokuluma, unokuphumeza ezi zicwangciso zokulungisa ukuziphatha kwayo:
- Hlala wehlile: Musa ukuyingxolisa okanye wohlwaye ikati. Endaweni yoko, susa ngobunono isandla sakho kwaye uyeke ukusebenzisana naye.
- Sebenzisa iithoyi ezifanelekileyo: Nanini na ikati yakho iluma, bhekisa ingqalelo yakhe kwinto yokudlala ukuze akwazi ukukhulula amandla akhe kuyo.
- Dibana nogqirha wezilwanyana: Ukuba ukuziphatha ndlongondlongo kuyaqhubeka, kusenokuba luphawu lweengxaki zempilo.
Ukuqeqesha ikati ukuba ingalumi kufuna ukuhambelana kunye nomonde. Ukuba usebenzisa la macebiso ngokuqhubekayo, uya kuphumelela baphucule indlela abaziphatha ngayo kwaye baqinisekise ukuhlalisana ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuba ungathanda ulwazi oluthe kratya malunga nendlela yokulawula ukuziphatha kwekati yakho, tyelela inqaku lethu izohlwayo zeekati nokubaluleka kwayo.
Khumbula ukuba umonde kunye nokuziqhelanisa ngundoqo ekuqeqesheni umhlobo wakho we-feline. Ikati eliziphethe kakuhle liqabane elonwabileyo. Xa uyayazi indlela yokuphendula xa ulunywa, uya kuba kwindlela elungileyo yokugcina ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nesilwanyana sakho sasekhaya.
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, uya kukwazi ukonwabela ukuhlalisana ngoxolo, ngaphandle kokuluma. Ikati yakho iya kufunda ukusebenzisana ngobumnene ngakumbi, yenza ikhaya lakho libe yindawo ekhuselekileyo kuye wonke umntu. Kuhlala kuluncedo ukukhumbula ingcebiso enikwe kweli nqaku ukuze wenze ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuqeqesha ikati yinkqubo eqhubekayo kodwa enomvuzo kakhulu.
Ngezi ngcebiso kunye nezicwangciso, unokufundisa ikati yakho ukuba ingalumi kwaye ibe liqabane elinothando nelikhuselekileyo ekhayeni lakho. Ngalo lonke ixesha khumbula ukuba ukungaguquguquki kunye nokuqiniswa okulungileyo ngundoqo ekudaleni indawo ehambelanayo kunye nesilwanyana sakho.
Mholo! Kwinyanga ephelileyo ndaye ndamkela ikati emalunga neminyaka emi-4 ubudala kwaye ndinomkhwa wokuluma njengefoto. Ndizama ukumnqanda kodwa uyaqhubeka nalo mkhwa, ndingenza ntoni !!! ???
Molo eVirginia.
Kufuneka ube nomonde. Ngalo lonke ixesha ezama ukukuluma, umnike into yokudlala, okanye ahambe.
Ayizukuthatha ixesha elide ukuba ufunde ukuba awukwazi.
A ubingelele.
molo .... kuqhelekile kwikati enempilo. ndilale kakhulu …… enkosi
Molo uDanelly.
Ukuba ulele phakathi kwe-16 kunye neeyure ezili-18, kuyinto eqhelekileyo 🙂
A ubingelele.
Ewe, ndinendawo embi kum. Xa bebancinci, abanye babo bayathanda ukudlala ngayo yonke into abayifumanayo, kwaye ewe, isandla sesinye sokudlala kwaye siyasebenzisana, ndiyabayeka bayenze, lithuku labo, kufana nokuxelela ukhetshe ukuba abhabhe, kodwa hayi phezulu kakhulu. Abanye babamba amazinyo ngakumbi, omnye ukhupha ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi kwezikhonkwane kwimilenze yangasemva ... kodwa ke, ndiza kukuxelela oh! Owu! ukuba undenza pupita… emva koko, uhlala ethe cwaka, undijonge kwaye uyaqhubeka nokuluma, kodwa okhululekileyo haha, iinjana zenja zenza okufanayo, ziyabakhathaza amazinyo xa bephuma / bekhula.
Enye into kukuba umama eze kukhusela unyana wakhe. Kanye namhlanje, ndive isikhalazo sekati, kwavela ukuba inenye yemilenze exineneyo ngentambo ebambe ulwelo lwetyhubhu (abenzi bamadoda, ityhubhu ebiza kakhulu kunye nolwandle lwenkawu, kuye kwafuneka yilahle kude kuba ukuyihlamba ngaphakathi kwakungekho lula, kwaye ityhubhu eqinileyo / iscraper / isincedisi somnyango esasiza nayo phantse sasilayisha inqina lam lekati), kuba ngelixa ndandikhulula intambo ezandleni zakhe, wayesakhala (enkosi ulungile apho ukuze "amsindise") kwaye unina wekati weza ebaleka ezokujonga ukuba kwenzeka ntoni, kwaye ihlwempu landiluma isandla, ngaphandle kokundilimaza, ngokungathi uthi, Umenza ntoni unyana wam?
Mhlawumbi njengokuba ndandiqhele ukudlala ngesandla sam njengomntwana, nanjengoko babezenza (isibini) sesilumkiso kuphela. Andazi, nditsho.
Namhlanje siza kunika ikati inombolo ye-18, indlela endiziva / ndiziva kakubi ngayo. Iimvakalelo ezixubileyo. Kulungile kuba siza kunika ikati «ekhethekileyo» (bubuhle obuxabisekileyo, ubuSiamese obufana nealbino, iinxalenye ekufuneka zimnyama, ziyi-vanilla / pinki), iyathandeka kwaye iyadlala, kwintombazana ekhethekileyo nayo, kuba umxholo wezempilo. Okubi ngenxa yokuba uyabathanda kwaye ibhondi iyenziwa.
Ndiyathemba ukuba uyayithanda njengokuba ndinayo.
Molo, ngobunye ubusuku ikati lam lekati lifika ebhedini kwindawo ekuhlaselwe kuyo, lihambe ngaphezulu kwedayvet kwaye liphele ngokundinika ukulunywa kabuhlungu ezingalweni okanye ezihlahleni. Umnwe wakhe undifaka ngaphakathi. Ndingenza ntoni? Enkosi.
Molo Laura.
Ukuba awukabikho, ndincoma ukuba udlale naye imini yonke, ngentambo okanye ibhola. Ukuba udiniwe, kuya kuba nzima ukuba alume.
Ngayiphi na imeko, ukuba iyakuluma, kufuneka usishiye isandla sakho, ingalo (okanye nantoni na ekulumayo as) nangoku kangangoko de amandla okuluma akhululeke. Emva koko yisuse kancinci.
Kubalulekile ukuba uphephe ukudlala ngokurhabaxa ngayo, kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke ungaze usebenzise izandla okanye iinyawo zakho njengezinto zokudlala. Kancinci kuya kuqondwa ukuba ayizizo iithoyi.
Ukubulisa
Ndithathe nje umfanekiso wabo, wobu buhle, kunye neklone yakhe, ngokudibeneyo kunye nomama wakhe (banenyanga ezimbini ezinesiqingatha ubudala). Uzokukhumbula la maxesha kunye nezo ebezichitha edlala nabantakwabo. Kodwa ukubuya uya kufumana uthando oluninzi lomntu kunye nayo yonke into ekhethekileyo kuye.
Iya kukhathalelwa kakuhle 🙂. Tyhila!!
Ndifunqule ikati esandula kuzalwa sayityisa yada yomelela, qha ngoku inyulu iluma izandla, iingalo, imilenze, iinyawo kwaye ihlala iphathwa ngothando kwaye iyandiluma kuphela, hayi umyeni wam. Ndinenye ikati esele indala eyihlangulayo encinci kwaye uzolile, ulala nam, enye itshabalalisa iphepha lam langasese, yaphula iingxowa zenayiloni, kwaye ndingayichazi eyokuba iyayihlupha ikati nenja yam, andenzi njalo Yazi ukuba wenzeni ngenxa yoko musa ukuluma, kuba sele indishiyile amanxeba ezandleni zombini
Molo Lina.
Xa ubona ukuba izakuluma, yeka umdlalo, kwaye uwushiye nje imizuzu embalwa ude wehle. Soloko udlala ngento yokudlala - ungaze ngezandla zakho - amatyeli aliqela ngemini. Iseshoni nganye kufuneka ihlale malunga nemizuzu eli-10.
Unokuqhagamshelana nomgqirha we-feline, njengoLaura Trillo (ovela kwi-therapyfelina.com).
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