Lowo ngumbuzo owakhe wazibuza wona umntu ... kwaye nanamhlanje usazibuza, ngamanye amaxesha. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, sisilwanyana esizimeleyo nesizimeleyo esingafuni ukuba phakathi kwabantu. Oku koko bekusoloko kuthethwa, akunjalo? Kodwa, abo kuthi babenethuba lokuba yinxalenye yosapho lwabanye babo, kwaye nabethu, Siyazi ukuba akunjalo. Unotshe.
Ukuba awunayo i-feline encinci, apha uya kufumanisa kutheni sithanda iikati.
Kutheni sibathanda kangaka?
Amakati kunye nabantu abanokwahluka ngakumbi: ezinye, zihlala zinqabile, zodwa, zithanda ukungabonwa kwaye zichitha ixesha elininzi lobomi bazo zilele; abanye kwelinye icala, sibahlali, sithanda ukuba wedwa kodwa ngeedosi ezincinci (ngokubanzi), kwaye sihlala sikonwabela ngaphandle kakhulu.
Nangona kunjalo, baninzi kuthi abathandayo ngamehlo akhe amnandi, iintshukumo zakhe ezi-agile, loo feline leyo, nangona inokubonakala ngathi yenye indlela, yabelana ngobuninzi bemfuzo kunye nezilwanyana ezinjengeehlosi, iingonyama okanye imiphanda.
Ngaba kunjalo kanye, ekugqibeleni, yintoni esimangalisayo ngeekati? Ewe, awanakwenziwa amakhaya, okanye hayi kwaphela. Abafani nezinja, ezinoboya ezimangalisayo kodwa ezingafaniyo neekati, zihlala zikulungele ukukholisa abantu. Iikati zihamba ngendlela yazo.
Ungabafundisa amaqhinga, kodwa baya kufunda kuphela ukuba bafuna njalo; ukuba bafumana into ngembuyekezo (unyango, iseshoni yokuthambisa, kunye / okanye iseshoni yomdlalo).
Ngokoluvo lwam, siyazithanda izilwanyana ezinoboya kuba…:
Banobuntu obufana nobethu
Yinyani. Kuyaziwa ukuba izilwanyana, nabantu, sinxibelelana ngcono nezinye izidalwa eziphilayo ezinophawu olufana nolwethu. Nangona iikati zisezilwanyana ezizingelayo, abathi kwasekuzalweni kude kube sekupheleni kweentsuku zabo bagqibelele ubuchule babo bokuzingela ngokudlala, bayafana kuthi nakwezinye izinto. Mhlawumbi okona kubalulekileyo kukuhlala kunye. Umzekelo:
- Ukuba ubanika uthando, uya kukunika. Kwaye ukuba awumhoyi, izakwenza konke okusemandleni yokufumana ingqalelo yakho.
- Uyakubulisa xa ekubona ufika, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ade athi "uhambe kakuhle" - meowing - xa uhamba.
- Uyavuya kakhulu xa umnika unyango-iikati-, kwaye ngakumbi xa umnika isiqwenga sesalmon, okanye ham.
- Xa umphethe kakubi kube kanye, ubudlelwane buba buthathaka, kwaye ukuthembana kuyalahleka. Ukusuka apho, kungathabatha inyanga ukuba ikati iphinde izive kamnandi ngawe.
Ngaba uyaziqonda ezinye zezi ndlela zokuziphatha ebantwini?
Ngoyena mhlobo wethu ubalaseleyo
Bayonwabisa, banobudlelane, bayathandana, bayasihlekisa… Kwaye konke, ukuba nophahla lokubakhusela kwimozulu engathandekiyo, kunye nabaxhasi. Ewe, kunye neethoyi, isikratshi, iitreyi zenkunkuma ... Kodwa sifuna okona kulungileyo kubo, ke inkcitho yemali ebandakanyekayo ... ayisiyonto nje ikhathazayo.
Ngenxa yokuba bayinxalenye yosapho lwethu.
Ithini inzululwazi?
Eli nqaku alinakugqitywa ngaphandle kokwazi ukuba isayensi ifumanise ntoni. Kuyinyani ukuba xa befunda ngokuziphatha kwekati kunye / okanye abantu ababathandayo, siphela sizibuza into efana nale: »kwaye ngoku bayayiqonda?». Kuko oko.
Kodwa akufuneki silibale ukuba, ngenxa yento esicocekileyo ngayo, kubantu abaninzi yinto entsha. Kwaye baninzi abasazibuza ukuba ingaba iikati zineemvakalelo okanye akunjalo.
Sithathela ingqalelo konke oku, makhe sibone ukuba ithini inzululwazi.
Abathandi bekati bathambekele ekungeniseni ngakumbi
Ngo-2010, abantu abangama-4500 XNUMX bebonke bazalise ifom eyaphuhliswa yiYunivesithi yaseTexas. bucala ngasekhohlo kufunda Kwakhokelwa ngugqirha wezengqondo uSam Gosling, kwaye bohlula abaphendulayo baba ngabathandi bezinja, abathandi bekati, bobabini izilwanyana okanye hayi.
Imibuzo yenziwa ngenjongo yokwazi ukuba loluphi utyekelo lokunxulumana nabo, ukuba babeneengqondo ezivulekileyo, ukuba babenobuhlobo, kwaye / okanye ukuba babehlala bekhathazeka, phakathi kwabanye. A) Ewe, Uvavanyo lweGolding luchaze abathandi bekati njengabantu ababonakalisa ngakumbi nabangenisayo, abazinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo, kodwa ngengqondo enkulu kunye nolwazelelo oluphezulu lokufumana amava amatsha.
Kwi 'ikati'banokuyithanda ngakumbi inkcubeko
Kwiminyaka emine emva kokuba uGosling enze isifundo sakhe, unjingalwazi wezengqondo kwiYunivesithi yaseCarroll eWisconsin, egama linguDenise Guastello, wayeziqhubela eyakhe, engathatheli ngqalelo kuphela ubuntu babathandi bezilwanyana, kodwa kwanendawo abahlala kuyo.
Umzekelo, umntu onganyanzelekanga ukuba ahambe nenja, angachitha elo xesha simahla efunda incwadi, okanye etyelele iimyuziyam umzekelo. Nangona, ngokucacileyo, oko akuthethi ukuba abathandi bekati banobukrelekrele kunabathandi bezinja, akunjalo; kodwa ewe oko ikati-iziyobisi zihlala zihlala ekhaya kwaye zingenisa.
Mhlawumbi, kwaye mhlawumbi kuphela, yiyo loo nto kukho amagcisa kunye nababhali abaninzi, abangasekhoyo, abakhe baphila okanye abahlala neekati, ezinje ngoJorge Luis Borges okanye uRay Bradbury, phakathi kwabanye.
Ukuba uyafuna, ungasifunda isifundo apha (Kungenxa yesiNgesi).
Andizithandi iikati, ngoba?
Kukho abantu abangazithandiyo iikati, nokuba kuba bakhulise uhlobo oluthile lobubi kubo, okanye ngenxa yokuba befumene ingozi, okanye ngenxa yokuba bengabathandi nanjengoko nawuphi na kuthi engathandi iihamsters umzekelo.
Ukuba yeyokugqibela, akukho nto inokwenziwa. Kodwa ukuba kungenxa ye-phobia okanye imeko ebuhlungu edlulileyo, kuya kucetyiswa ukuba uqhagamshelane nengcali, isayikholojisti, ngakumbi ukuba uza kuhlala nomntu othanda iikati. Oku kuyakwenza ukuhlala kunye ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo kube ngcono ngakumbi.
Nangona kunjalo, musa ukuzinyanzela. Ngokufanelekileyo, I-Phobias ayiphilisi ukusuka kusuku olunye ukuya kolandelayo, nangokuphulula nayiphi na ikati esondela kuwe. Kuya kufuneka uhambe kancinci kancinci, ngesantya sakho. Tyhila baziqonde, oku kunokukwenza uzive ungcono.
Ndiyathemba ukuba iluncedo kuwe 🙂.
Ndiyathanda. Zizinto eziphilayo ezintle. Izidalwa zikaThixo njengazo zonke izinto eziphilayo ezihlala kwindalo iphela
Kuthiwa uThixo wadala ikati, ukuze ayiphulule kwaye ayibambe ezingalweni zethu, asikwazi ukuyenza nge-feline efana, iTiger, iNgonyama, i-Panther, ingwe, ingwenkala, njl. uluvo oluchanekileyo?